How do you look at it? Is your marriage the end of your life or the beginning of brand new season?
I rather not get into statistics for the lack of statistical facts but I can look around me and literally around me and see this happening in almost every household.
In our younger years or during or period of dating we always take care of ourselves. We go to the gym, we make sure were always properly groomed, dressed and smelling nice. After the I do’s things suddenly change. The change is not noticeable to the general public until after a few years, but I’m sure that it’s noticeable to the individuals involved from inception. We just tend to lose focus of who we are and what we like forgetting that that’s the person our significant other fell in love with in the first place. I do agree that there are things that ought to be changed as there are responsibilities to live up too but for far too long I’ve been observing couples as if there social status goes into a chaotic drop off. Now this could be for one of two reasons. Either the marriage is not what they’ve expected it to be and most cases that’s the case. We are never prepared for marriage for very few couples were sat down and really informed what marriage is all about. This is a whole other topic though. Or they’ve focus shift from them individually and is then set on their partner and as the years go by from just their partner to their partner and the kids. This last reason is good but still bad as I believe everything should be done with moderation. If you neglect yourself, how could you be around to take care of either your partner or your kids? What I’m saying here is: You have to take care of your partner, yes I agree. Your kids, I agree again. My problem with this is where you/we tend to neglect ourselves.
We humans are so crazy. The majority of us neglect ourselves in the quest to take care of our family. The vast majorities of those that don’t neglect themselves are selfish and just look out for themselves in a marriage that is supposed to be the both of us. This is the other extreme.
What am I saying in this post? When you get married, don’t neglect yourself in the marriage. Your wife or husband was first attracted to you due to the person they saw. (Yes I believe that attraction is first physical) So to keep the spice and the attraction going don’t change who you are once you get married. I’m not saying that you must remain the same, same. You know that there are things that need to be changed as we are in a constant process of perfecting ourselves but you don’t have to change who your spouse was first attracted to. Get out there dress up, groom yourself and take out a subscription to a gym to keep yourself in shape. This is good for your marriage as well as for your health.
This is a part of my own life that I’ve been analyzing. I must say that so far I’ve lost the battle on this one but I however must say the fight ain’t over so I’ve determined to get myself back in shape, groom myself and dress a little more. It’s not that I don’t groom or dress but I notice that I find myself doing or not doing certain things in this area that a few years ago couldn’t fly. I’m currently +/- 100Kgs and about 6 years ago I was +/- 75Kgs so I’ve gained 25 Kgs in 6 years and I’m determined to lose it. I’ll be signing up to a gym by the end of the week and really work on it. I’ll also be signing up for the online biggest loser program.
Do I have any joiners? Stop neglecting or don’t neglect yourself now that you’re just married or getting into marriage.