Guest And Their Cameras

Jun 30

I’ve found this on Rob Rife’s blog, Rob’s a great photographer living in Cleveland, Ohio and a member of WPJA. I’ve received permission to copy this thought and give him credits.

I’ve heard much discussion recently about photographers who limit or restrict guests from taking pictures. Different photographers have different policies regarding this…with some being more restrictive than others. Here is a factual look at why most photographers have such policies in place.

It used to be that photographers derived a large part of their income from the sale of prints, and every time someone else took a picture, it meant that some of their income was going to be lost. This was particularly true with the formals and family photographs. So, to protect their ability to feed their families, many photographers prohibited outside cameras during the family photographs.

But it goes much deeper than the photographer missing out on a few sales………..

It’s more about the photographers ability to provide the best images that they can for their client. Most photographers care very deeply about the images they produce, and when a great image is compromised by a guest with a camera…or missed altogether…it’s frustrating to the photographer. And it’s been know to cause brides to be very angry with their photographer over missed pictures, when in fact, it was completely out of the photographers control.

Here’s a few real world examples of what can go wrong…

During the bridal and family photographs…some of the subjects may look at someone with a camera other than the photographers…so you end up with family and bridal portraits that have some of the people looking in different directions. That doesn’t make for a very appealing image. And while these can usually be retouched to some degree, it may cost you significant money.

Your photographer got no emotionally charged images of the father/daughter dance…because the entire time there were friends and relatives calling your names and tapping you on the shoulder to turn and look at them so they could take your picture.

That wonderful moment when you when you were dancing with your brother would have made a great photograph had it not been for that big orange glow on his face coming from the focus assist light on someones camera.

I know a photographer who once was unable to get any images at all of the ring exchange. The priest had restricted him to the very back of the church, and although he could see down the aisle just fine with a telephoto lens, his view was completely blocked by the three guests with cellphone cameras who got up and stood in the aisle near the front.

I could go on…but I think you see my point. Wedding photographers in general understand that guests want to take pictures. They expect it. They know that many guests bring cameras, even if it’s a cellphone camera. They certainly don’t want to deny anyone the chance to take a picture. Most photographers will tell you that they want the guests to take as many pictures as they like.

But they also hope that they’re given the opportunity to produce their best work for their clients. They don’t expect a client to tell their guests to leave their digital and cellphone cameras at home, but they do hope that you understand that sometimes an otherwise well intentioned guest will compromise their best efforts.

All they want is the chance to give their clients the best possible work that they can. They want their clients to be thrilled with the images…not unhappy because something got missed or ruined.

Blessings,

Bryan Morris

Aruba Through My Eyes

Jun 29

The most favorite time of the day for me living in Aruba is sunset. I could never have enough sunset images.

Enjoy your Sunday.

Blessings,

Bryan Morris

Jun 28

This was such a dumb idea that the title of the post had to be written in a dumb way.

When it comes to a proposal, most people go for the WOW factor and really attempt to place the last nail in the coffin. So they try to use never heard before proposal ideas or at least adapt an idea to be unique as possible to make an impact at whatever cost.

My, my my…..There are good ways to propose, bad ways to propose, ways that I don’t necessarily favor, but ah well, I don’t have to like them all; there are ways that absolutely blow me away.

And then there are ways that are DUMB, DUMB, DUMB so dumb that you had to name it three times.

Lefko Hajji, bought a $12000 ring to propose to his girlfriend. He placed the ring inside a helium balloon, as he left the balloon shop, the wind got a hold of the balloon (with the $12.000 ring inside of course) and he just stood there looking how the distance between him and the balloon got bigger and bigger.

He did attempt to follow it by car but was not successful.

His girlfriend is now giving him the silent treatment until he gets her a new ring.

He still hopes it to be returned……I really hope for him.

Blessings,

Bryan Morris

Geeky Wedding Proposals

Jun 27

In this high tech day and age, people are conjuring up very unique ways of proposing. I don’t know about anyone else but I enjoy every minute of this electronic age that we live in. Possibilities are endless if you really want to achieve, even a proposal!

It just fascinates me to see the creativity and the ingenuity in some people, it totally blows me away.

After you put all the thought and effort in a proposal like this, can you really be rejected?

I doubt it very much…..

Blessings,

Bryan Morris

Public Wedding Proposals

Jun 26

In my post on Wedding Proposal Ideas I’ve stressed, to avoid being embarrased, make sure she would say yes especially if you’re going to make a public proposal.

Here is one public proposal gone wrong.

Here’s another wedding proposal rejected in public.

Don’t even think about proposing like this even if you’re under the influence of any mind altering substance because you’ll still have to sober up to the rejection later.

This is the right way to propose in public.

Come back tomorrow for “Geeky Wedding Proposals” and there’s also a post entitled “Dumbest Proposal Ideas” for Saturday.

Blessings,

Bryan Morris

Quote Of The Week

Jun 25

Our greatest glory is not in never falling but in rising every time we fall - Unknown

I know of one fact, don’t fear falling or coming up short. If you have the right attitude, falling will only make you stronger. The attitude one should have about falling is not to stay down but to get up, dust off and continue.

The speaks truth for any struggle you might have in life e.g. An addiction of some sort, anger, compulsive behavior etc……. Or it can also work for a goal that you might have or a project that you’re working on.

Perfect example is Thomas Edison who tested over 3000 filaments before coming up with his practical version of a light bulb. So what this means is that he “fell” over 3000 times before getting it to work the way he wanted.

Whatever plan you may have or hangup you want to kick, are you able to have that amount of tenacity to reach your goal?

It’s time to get up and go for it!

Blessings,

Bryan Morris

Proposal Ideas

Jun 24

On various forums I often see this question; “How can I propose to my girlfriend in a creative, romantic way?” After all, you want the proposal to be as original and impacting as possible. You want her to be blown away at your creativity and planning. You only ask someone to marry you once. You want her to have a great story to tell to her mother, girlfriends, and, someday, your children.

I’ve decided to do some research on wedding proposals and I came up with quite a few possibilities/options, they range from inexpensive to rather pricey, from public to very private and intimate.

You can adapt them to fit your own relationship and resources. Remember, she’s worth it, and of course, the budget is not as important as your care, effort, and creativity. And those, unlike your pocketbook, are limitless!

One important question — Do you want to pop the question in public or privately? Is she shy and modest or does she loves to be the center of attention? The following suggestions are a mixture of ideas for public areas or solitary spots; the choice is yours…

Very important! If your choice of proposal is public, to avoid embarrassment, please be sure that she will accept.

  • Consider all of the places that have been special in your dating relationship– maybe the restaurant where you had your first date, the swing under a tree where you shared your first kiss, a favorite park or walking trail, etc. Create clues that would help her to guess each place. Using a map, design a scavenger hunt for your girlfriend. Decide the order in which you want her to visit these favorite places. You’ll plant clues at each place leading her to the next place. Place the engagement ring in a miniature treasure chest. Plant the clues at each spot in advance. Make certain they are secure and not too difficult to find; you may even want to involve people whenever possible to ensure none of the clues are lost. (ask the restaurant hostess or movie theater ticket booth worker, etc.) Explain what you’re doing; maybe even show them your girlfriend’s photo so they know to be on the lookout for her. People love romantic proposals; they’ll be happy to help. Keep a cell phone handy and instruct your girlfriend to call you if she gets lost or can’t find the next clue. With the clue, place an explanation of why you selected the place and a favorite memory you’ve shared there. Tell your girlfriend to meet you and hand her the clue that will take her to the first spot. Explain that she’s going on a treasure hunt and that you’ll see her at her final destination. Make that final spot very special, if possible the place she’s said she’d always like to be married. Perhaps a small, quaint chapel, large peaceful church, ornate temple or pier overlooking the river. Wait for your girlfriend to arrive at the final point on the hunt. When she walks over to you, explain that for as long as you’ve known her she’s been your treasure. Ask her to allow you to treasure her for always as you pull out the box…
  • This date depends upon several wonderful little surprises, each building up for the greatest surprise of you asking her to marry you over a romantic dinner. Feel free to add any other small surprises you might think of. For the day you’ve chosen to pop the question, tell her you’re throwing her a “surprise” date and that she should reserve the entire day. Plan a nice breakfast that you’ll cook and serve for her. Pick up the necessary ingredients. Make reservations at a very nice restaurant. Order flowers; buy her a nice new dress for the occasion. Make reservations for a car to pick her up and take her to dinner (or ask a friend to play chauffeur.) Rent a tux, or take your nicest suit to the dry cleaner. Get her a gift certificate to a day spa or for a facial, manicure, or some other kind of pampering activity. Make her an appointment for this if necessary. Let her sleep in and you cook breakfast. Omelets or Belgian waffles with strawberries, fresh squeezed orange juice, whatever she’d like. Serve it to her in bed. Then do the dishes. That part is very important! Tell her that you’re leaving but instructions will follow. Then leave! Have a dozen roses delivered mid-morning. Next, have lunch delivered (Chinese or whatever she likes.) In the afternoon call her to “remind” her of her appointment at the Day Spa, manicurist, etc. and the time and place for that afternoon. Then, drop the new dress off (anonymously if possible) with a note that she’s to wear it to dinner. Tell her what time to be ready by and that her driver will pick her up promptly at that time. Have her driven to the restaurant and seated. You will not be waiting at the table, but nearby, unseen. Ask a waiter to deliver a note to her that reads, “Say ‘yes.’” Then, approach the table and get down on one knee. You can tell her that she never ceases to surprise and amaze you, or that you’re surprised that an incredible person like her could love you, yadda yadda… In other words, ask her to marry you!
  • Find someone in your community who performs as a magician for parties. Hire him to perform a 45 min. show at the local Mall and help you propose to your girlfriend. Arrange the exact time and place in the mall that he is to perform. Show him your girlfriend’s photo. Check with the Mall authorities to make certain it is okay (they shouldn’t argue with getting a free entertainer — explain that you’re paying for the magician to perform.) Suggest that you and your girlfriend go for a shopping trip during the time you’ve asked the magician to perform. “Just happen” to walk upon him (there should already be a small crowd gathered.) When he sees you he is to ask for volunteers for his next trick and choose your girlfriend. Arrange with him ahead of time how you’d like his help. Maybe he could do an ordinary trick, then call for another volunteer and bring you up. Maybe you’d rather he call you both up together in the first place.
  • Freeze the ring in an ice cube and drop it in her glass, while you are at your favorite restaurant. When she realizes what is in her drink, get down on one knee and ask her to marry you.
  • Go to a local bakery. Instruct them to bake a cake with a marriage proposal on it and put it in the window. Take her on a romantic nighttime stroll right past the bakery, and point to the personalized cake in the window. Drop down on one knee, pull out the ring, and ask her to marry you. This way you can have your cake and eat it too, literally.
  • Surprise her by sending a bouquet of flowers to her office or home. Tie the ring to the end of one of the stems. After the flowers are delivered, go to her office and propose.
  • Pretend to drop your napkin in front of her at a restaurant. Ask her to pick it up, and while she is not looking, drop the ring in her wine glass. When she sees the ring, propose to her.
  • Purchase fortune cookies and take out the fortunes with a pair of tweezers. Swap the fortunes with a piece of paper that says, “Will you marry me?” Then bring her to your favorite Chinese restaurant and have the waiter bring out her fortune after the meal.
  • Bring her to one of her favorite restaurants. Make a menu with your proposal printed inside of it. Then have the waiter deliver the menu to your sweetie. As she opens it, ask for her hand in marriage.
  • Have breakfast in bed together on a Sunday morning. Make her a beautiful breakfast with scrambled eggs, fruit, and mimosas. After you are done eating, tell her there is just one thing left you have to give her, and pull out the ring.
  • Book a room for the two of you at a fancy hotel. Decorate it with flower petals and scented candles. Put rose petals all over the room, leading into the bathtub. Give her a robe, and ask her to look in the pocket. After she finds the ring, propose. Then give her a relaxing massage in the tub.
  • Make a rose petal trail from the front door to the bedroom. Create a heart shape with rose petals on the bed, and put the ring in the middle. Tell her to go see what is in your heart.
  • Deliver one rose to her every hour for 11 hours. On the 12th hour show up to meet her and propose.
  • If she is a thrill seeker, take her skydiving. After you land, tell her if you made it through this you can make it through anything. Pull out a ring from your pocket and propose.
  • For a more tame air idea, arrange a sunset hot air balloon ride for her. As you watch the beautiful sky, tell her how much you love her and ask her to marry you.
  • Go Bungee jumping. When she is at the top of the cliff, pull out a sign that says “Will you marry me?” at the bottom
  • Bring her back to the spot where you went on your first date. Tell her that ever since then, the relationship has grown so much and you hope she feels the same way. Then ask her to marry you.
  • Propose to her on Christmas. Put the ring in a box, and hang it like an ornament on the tree. After all the presents have been opened, tell her there is one more special gift for her. Direct her to the ornament, and get down on your knees to propose.
  • Put the ring in several layers of boxes so that each box fits inside another to create an illusion of a giant present. Have her unwrap it until she finally gets to the ring, and ask her to marry you.
  • Write an advertisement slide, and ask the movie theater to show it as a preview before the movie. Get to the theater early, and let her watch the previews. When it gets to her slide, get down on one knee and propose.
  • Take her on a surprise trip somewhere special. Blindfold her so she has no idea where she is going. When you get to the spot, take off the blindfold and ask her to marry you.
  • Pop the question on the PA system on the airplane on your way to a vacation. She will be surprised, and all eyes would be on you (both) during the entire flight and even after you land.

 

Blessings,

 

Bryan Morris

 

Naeem’s Graduation

Jun 23

On Friday was Naeem’s graduation. His school organized a kindergarten graduation evening. It was a nice experience. Here are a few images of the evening.

Striking a pose before the graduation ceremony.

Naeem receiving his certificate from his teacher.

the 3 stooges, these three are inseparable.

Blessings,

Bryan Morris

Jun 22

This is my contribution for this week, enjoy!

Blessings,

Bryan Morris

Wedding Dances

Jun 20

The traditional first dance as man and wife is slowly becoming a thing of the past.

Brides & Grooms in this day and age are really working hard on stepping up what was preceded by their predecessors. The first dance was really swaying back and forth to the tunes of a ballad, but now……….

………this is a new era!

There are quite a few videos online I’ve chosen this one as it’s been online for just a few months but it has been seen close to two million times. Go on “Youtube” this weekend, entertain yourself and get some inspiration for your own wedding.

I just love it when a couple dare to come out of the box.

Blessings and a great weekend to you,

Bryan Morris