Bryan Morris - Aruba’s Premier Wedding Photographer

Success is not a destination but a journey.

John Maxwell

This basically says that you should keep keeping on.

 Blessings,

Bryan Morris

De good Lawd send me troubles

An’ I got to wuk ‘em out.

But look aroun’ an’ see

There’s trouble all about.

An’ when I see my troubles

I jes look up an’ grin

To think of all the troubles

Dat I ain’t in.

Author Unknown

This is a typical Caribbean quote but very true nonetheless.

Life just ain’t fair and when you look around you would still be able to find someone worst off than you. So instead of complaining in the midst of your share of troubles look around and thank God, because it could’ve been worst.

Blessings,

Bryan Morris

How do you look at it? Is your marriage the end of your life or the beginning of brand new season?

I rather not get into statistics for the lack of statistical facts but I can look around me and literally around me and see this happening in almost every household.

In our younger years or during or period of dating we always take care of ourselves. We go to the gym, we make sure were always properly groomed, dressed and smelling nice. After the I do’s things suddenly change. The change is not noticeable to the general public until after a few years, but I’m sure that it’s noticeable to the individuals involved from inception. We just tend to lose focus of who we are and what we like forgetting that that’s the person our significant other fell in love with in the first place. I do agree that there are things that ought to be changed as there are responsibilities to live up too but for far too long I’ve been observing couples as if there social status goes into a chaotic drop off. Now this could be for one of two reasons. Either the marriage is not what they’ve expected it to be and most cases that’s the case. We are never prepared for marriage for very few couples were sat down and really informed what marriage is all about. This is a whole other topic though. Or they’ve focus shift from them individually and is then set on their partner and as the years go by from just their partner to their partner and the kids. This last reason is good but still bad as I believe everything should be done with moderation. If you neglect yourself, how could you be around to take care of either your partner or your kids? What I’m saying here is: You have to take care of your partner, yes I agree. Your kids, I agree again. My problem with this is where you/we tend to neglect ourselves.

We humans are so crazy. The majority of us neglect ourselves in the quest to take care of our family. The vast majorities of those that don’t neglect themselves are selfish and just look out for themselves in a marriage that is supposed to be the both of us. This is the other extreme.

What am I saying in this post?  When you get married, don’t neglect yourself in the marriage. Your wife or husband was first attracted to you due to the person they saw. (Yes I believe that attraction is first physical) So to keep the spice and the attraction going don’t change who you are once you get married. I’m not saying that you must remain the same, same. You know that there are things that need to be changed as we are in a constant process of perfecting ourselves but you don’t have to change who your spouse was first attracted to. Get out there dress up, groom yourself and take out a subscription to a gym to keep yourself in shape. This is good for your marriage as well as for your health.

This is a part of my own life that I’ve been analyzing. I must say that so far I’ve lost the battle on this one but I however must say the fight ain’t over so I’ve determined to get myself back in shape, groom myself and dress a little more. It’s not that I don’t groom or dress but I notice that I find myself doing  or not doing certain things in this area that a few years ago couldn’t fly. I’m currently +/- 100Kgs and about  6 years ago I was +/- 75Kgs so I’ve gained 25 Kgs in 6 years and I’m determined to lose it. I’ll be signing up to a gym by the end of the week and really work on it. I’ll also be signing up for the online biggest loser program.

Do I have any joiners? Stop neglecting or don’t neglect yourself now that you’re just married or getting into marriage.

Blessings,

Bryan Morris

Don’t join an easy crowd. You won’t grow. Go where the expectations and the demands to perform are high.

Jim Rohn

In this life if you ever want to achieve anything you must always position yourself in a crowd that would challenge you. I never feel bad when I’m in the company of big entrepreneurs or business men. That is actually where I want to be because there’s a thing or two, I can learn from them. So next time you find yourself in an environment where you feel you’re outweighed by knowledge just use it as a learning experience.

Blessings,

Bryan Morris

The father of success is work - The mother of achievement is ambition.

Short and sweet. It could not have been any clearer.

In order for you to achieve success in this life, you have to be ambitious and work. Just a sidenote, the harder you work at it the more successful you’ll be. That’s a whole other quote.

Blessings,

Bryan Morris

Obviously everyone wants to be successful, but I want to be looked back on as being very innovative, very trusted and ethical and ultimately making a big difference in the world.

Sergey Brin

That is me right there. He couldn’t make the statement in better words.

Blessings,

Bryan Morris

Sometimes your biggest weakness can become your biggest strength. Take for example, the story of one 10 year old boy who decided to study Judo despite the fact that he had lost his left arm in a devastating car accident. The boy began lessons with an old Japanese Judo master. The boy was doing well, so he couldn’t understand why, after three months of training the master had taught him only one move.

“Sensei”, the boy finally said, “Shouldn’t I be learning more moves. This is the only move you know, but this is the only move you’ll ever need to know,” the sensei replied. Not quite understanding but believing in his teacher, the boy kept training. Several months later, the sensei took the boy to his first tournament. Surprising himself, the boy easily won his first two matches. The third match proved to be more difficult, but after some time, his opponent became impatient and charged; the boy deftly used his one move to win the match. Still amazed by his success. the boy was now in his finals. This time his opponent was bigger, stronger and more experienced. For a while, the boy appeared to be overmatched. Concerned that the boy might get hurt, the referee called a time out. He was about to stop the match when the sensei intervened. “No” the sensei insisted, “let them continue.” Soon after the match resumed, his opponent made a critical mistake, he dropped his guard. Instantly the boy made his move to pin him. The boy had won the match and the tournament. He was champion. On the way home the boy and sensei reviewed every move in each and every match. Then the boy summoned the courage to ask what was really on his mind.  “Sensei, how did I win the tournament with only one move?” “You won for two reasons,” the sensi answered. “First you’ve almoste mastered one of the most difficult moves in Judo. And second, the only known defense for that move is for your opponent to grab your left arm.”

The boy’s biggest weakness had become his biggest strength.

 Be Blessed,

Bryan Morris

Success is to be measured not so much by the position one has reached in life, as by the obstacles which he has overcome while trying  to succeed.

                                                                       Booker T. Washington

This quote is so much truth. When I read it it made me think of the begining stages of my business, not that I’m running a majored busines already. It has not even reached the tip of the iceberg. But it’s running with a pace now where the light at the end of the tunnel could be seen. We’re not there yet but getting there. Especially at the beginning, many had been the days that I’ve felt like throwing in the towel. I guess it happens to every business owner every so often. I wanted to give up and go back to the 9 to 5 but I stuck with it. Me at a 9 to 5 would make me most miserable. I’m not cutout for that. I’m highly ambitious. I must be constantly on the edge. After this photography business takes off to where I would want it to be I’ll be off to the other venture. I have a great deal of plans but photography is my love so I would never leave photography. I’ll pioneer other projects and leave it over to staff to run. OK, back on track. We tend to look at successful people and wish we are like them not knowing the many obstacles, hurdles, mountains and valleys they’ve had to cross to get where they are, not mentioning the time and effort that was invested in honing their skill, don’t forget, the sleepless nights. If you want to be succesful in life, be it on your job or in your own business you have to be able to overcome those obstacles, because obstacles will come!

 Blessings,

Bryan Morris